Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
1. Your Partner Invalidates You
Invalidation occurs when your partner rejects, dismisses, or denies your feelings.
An example of invalidation:
You: I feel like our relationship isn’t the same as it used to be. It doesn’t seem like you love me anymore since you never want to spend time with me and constantly ignore me.
Them: Are you kidding me? That’s so stupid. I just took you on a date a few days ago and told you that I loved you.
Even though your partner does not agree with how you are feeling, that does not change how you feel. Your partner should address your concerns and should have an open and honest conversation with you. They should encourage you to elaborate on how you are feeling while attempting to understand your perspective. Once you have shared your feelings, they should ask for advice on how they can be a better partner and what they can do to show you how much they love you.
2. Your Partner Is Manipulative
3. They Disregard Boundaries
4. Your Partner Is Overly Critical
5. They Pressure You To Engage In Intercourse
Your partner should never pressure you into engaging in sexual activities when you do not want to.
You: I am really tired, and I don’t want to have intercourse tonight.
Them: Really? Let’s just do it. Prove that you love me.
After their response, you may feel as though you are obligated to have intercourse with them. You may believe that if you do not intercourse with them, they will go have it with someone else, or they will be upset with you. This is not okay. Your partner should never make you feel as though you are obligated to do something at any moment that you do not want to do.
With that being said, it can be uncommon for both partners to want to engage in intercourse at the same time. One of you may have a higher sex drive than the other. Or one of you may want to only have intercourse once a week, while the other person wants to do it daily. This is when you have to effectively communicate to your partner how often/ when you would like to have intercourse. Hopefully, once they hear your side, you guys will come to a compromise on when you will engage in intercourse.
6. They Attempt To Isolate You From Friends and Family
7. They Won’t Compromise or Apologize
We all know that relationships can be complicated. No partner is perfect. There are going to be bumps in the road where you are unable to see eye to eye. While you may feel betrayed or hurt by your partner, they may feel as though they did nothing wrong. It is a red flag when your partner is unwilling to compromise or apologize to you when they have done something that has upset you.
8. You Can’t Trust Them
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. If you and your partner do not trust each other, your relationship is going to fail. You should be able to trust your partner and know that they would never do anything to hurt or betray you. If you have a lack of trust in your partner, you will not feel secure which will cause further issues as your relationship progresses.
9. Abusive Behavior
Abusive behavior is not okay under any circumstance. Whether it is verbal, emotional, or physical abuse, it should never be allowed in your relationship. If you believe that you are being abused, please reach out to the National Domestic Abuse Hotline, and an advocate will help guide you through your abuse while providing you with resources and support. You can chat with them online via the website, or you can call them at1-800-799-7223 or text “START” to 88788.
I hope that these red flags help you understand what is not to be accepted in a relationship. Even if these red flags do not resonate with you at this time, you should always be aware of them. As mentioned previously, just because one of these red flags is obvious in your relationship, it does not mean your relationship has to end. However, if you have addressed these red flags with your partner and they are not willing to change, it may be a sign that you need to walk away.