Most people know that trust is one thing that’s hard to gain and very easy to lose. When you’re in a relationship, trust is everything. It is essentially the foundation of every relationship. If you or your partner has lost trust, it may seem impossible to trust each other again. Even though rebuilding trust in your relationship is not always easy, it is possible. Both partners must be willing to put in the time and effort that it takes to rebuild the trust you once shared. To understand how to rebuild trust in a relationship, let’s first look at what trust means.
What Does It Mean to Trust Someone?
Trust in regard to relationships means a feeling of confidence and personal security that your partner cares for you. Trust is hardly ever absolute; it requires certain situations or scenarios to come into play.
For instance, you may see your partner’s phone on the bed unlocked while he is sleeping. Someone who doesn’t trust their partner would hurry to go through their messages to ensure they are not cheating. A partner who doesn’t have trust issues may lock the phone, put it on the bedside table and go to sleep.
When you fully trust someone, you always have this reassurance that the person loves you and would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship. Regardless of how many fights, arguments, or disputes you’ve had. Trust makes no need for justifications. Meaning, you don’t need to over-explain anything to your partner since you already know they’ll understand you and trust your decisions and actions.
Signs of Lack of Trust in A Relationship
There are a few indicators that show a relationship lacks trust. Here are 3 common signs:
1. Assuming/Awaiting betrayal
Your partner begins to question all of your choices and second guesses your decisions. They do this despite having no real reason. In some situations, your partner may even go as far as assuming your decisions will be wrong before even listening to what you have to say.
2. Becoming Overprotective
Your partner becomes very protective of you because they’re scared you’ll become disloyal.
3. Inability to Commit
You find out that no matter how much your partner expresses they love you, they will never fully commit. An example of this would be if your partner seems uninterested every time you attempt to talk about your future together.
Tips for Rebuilding Trust
1. Review What Could Have Caused The Betrayal
Nobody wants to be lied to, especially if it’s someone you’re in a relationship with. Being aware of why your partner may have kept something from you and understanding from their perspective may help you understand why they lied in the first place. Regardless of the circumstance, however, you have the right to let the person know how you feel. Being aware and understanding of the reason for their action will aid in rebuilding the trust you both once shared.
2. Own Up to Your Error/Mistake
No one is perfect and everyone has their faults. In any situation, you must be willing to admit when you are wrong. Also, you should begin to understand your mistake and how it made your partner feel. Once your partner’s feelings are understood, you should apologize and let them know you understand why they feel the way they do. Remember that actions speak louder than words. If you want to make amends with your partner and rebuild trust, you must be willing to put in the effort.
3. Be Empathetic
If your partner has lost trust in you, it is likely that they are feeling some level of pain. Understand how your partner feels and carry those emotions with you. When your partner sees you feeding off their emotions, it will be easier for you both to recover and rebuild trust in your relationship.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, if you and your partner truly love each other, then most of these steps mentioned above are achievable. There must be a mutual understanding that both you and your partner are human and mistakes will be made. Rebuilding the trust that has been lost is possible. However, you must both be determined to leave the mistakes in the past and move on.
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